May 18, 2009
So, you’re in the train station in Antwerp, Belgium and something really unusual begins to happen. What do you do? This is a real surprise and a lot of fun! Please feel free to share with others and make sure that your sound is on. Thanks!
May 18, 2009
This is a letter to Dear Abby that appeared in the Dallas Morning News newspaper on September 5, 2006
I recently learned a lesson about not judging a book by it’s cover. A young man and his divorced mother moved into our quiet neighborhood of mostly retirees and young couples who have not yet started families. When we first laid eyes on the young man, we saw a guy with shoulder-length hair dressed in all black—complete with black fingernail polish and black eyeliner. Everyone thought the worst: “Oh, no! A heathen devil-worshipper!” A few months later, he presented himself in ragged jeans, a flannel shirt, his head completely shaved. Again we thought the worst: “He’s turned into one of those neo-Nazi skinheads!”
I later learned from his mother that her son is a sociology major at a university about 200 miles from here. (He had to evacuate during Hurricane Katrina as a large portion of the campus was destroyed.) The black attire we first saw was for a costume party he was attending that evening. He grows his hair long to donate to Locks of Love, which uses it to make wigs for cancer patients who have lost their hair during chemo, hence the shaved head.
He spends his summers working with groups going to underprivileged countries to teach the children to read and write. He also goes with Doctors Without Borders to help inoculate people who have never had the basic childhood vaccinations against rubella, tetanus, etc.
I feel completely ashamed of myself for forming such an opinion about this wonderful young person simply from his appearance at a distance. I have since gotten to know him during his weekend visits home to see his mother and have discovered what an intelligent, compassionate, giving individual he is, and I am honored to have him as a neighbor.
Please warn your readers not to make the same mistake I and the rest of my neighbors made in judging a worthwhile young man by his appearance at first glance.
Ashamed in Branson, MO.
With pleasure. Your letter is a timely one because it applies not only to individuals who dress differently, but also to people of different races and religions. It illustrates that hand in hand with ignorance walks prejudice.
Copyright 2006 Dallas Morning News